Maxie

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I think that you need to understand that what is possibly a correct way of living for one person, is not necessarily correct for another person. I’ve gone through both sides of this polar scale, and I can honestly see where you’re coming from… One thing I learned is that it’s not the sober person’s job to be the baby-sitter. If you don’t want to deal with them, then don’t. I realized that one of the main reasons I would do that is because it made me feel better about being sober. I thought that because I could put myself in a position where I would look after them, it made their lifestyle incorrect and mine more reasonable. It’s not true though, honestly. I learned that every time I “baby-sat” my friends, I’d get frustrated. Want to know the solution? Don’t do it. And if you choose to do it, you can’t truly get mad at them for doing it in the first place. You’re the one who put yourself in the position, not them.

Secondly, you have to understand that the reasons some people didn’t drink were personal, and not everyone has the same outlook on it. I didn’t drink because my family has a history of alcohol abuse and I was scared I would be like that… But over winter break I realized I won’t. I’m not like my parents, my brother, my cousins, my aunt, my grandparents, I am myself. Emerson once said, “I walk with my own feet; I work with my own hands; I think with my own mind.” I understand what I’m doing, I thought about it and made a logical decision. If you don’t want to drink, that’s great Armando… But just because other people decide to, that doesn’t mean they are wrong.
I don’t know your own reasons for not drinking, and frankly, I don’t care. Do whatever you want, but realize your lifestyle does not suit everyone else the same.

Thirdly, I’m not sure if this is about me or not, but I think it’s ridiculous for you to say I was being irresponsible. To be irresponsible means that I blew off some sort of obligation or made a decision which was detrimental to something else. I did not. I did all of my homework before, I didn’t have anything to do the next day. I was in control of myself at all times, I was at no point in the night acting unsafe, or stupid, honestly. I wasn’t stumbling around unable to stand up straight, I wasn’t throwing up in my room, I wasn’t pissing on my door…. I was never irresponsible. What would I have done differently if I didn’t drink? I would have sat in my room, maybe played video games, maybe watched a movie, and then slept. I had nothing else more important to do.

I think I speak for everyone when I say this, but don’t turn us into some evil and immoral creatures in your fantasy world just because we don’t feel like sitting around playing video games all night, and because we don’t have self control issues.

You let Matt and the other person come into your room, they didn’t need you to do that, you chose to. Don’t cry about it. Don’t bitch about it. Don’t give your friends the silent treatment because of it. They are big boys Armando, they could have gotten along just fine without you, you don’t have to act like a baby-sitter if you don’t want to. They’re having fun, they’re being stupid, they’re doing stupid things… It’s not my job to stop them, nor is it yours.

I lived a life that was controlled by everyone around me. I will never go back, I will live life as I see fit, and I think that me and my friends are doing nothing wrong. I am offended by this; learn how to accept us how we are, we don’t judge you for being sober, don’t judge us for wanting to have fun and live life in a safe and controlled environment.

Please save me the fucking guilt trip. It’s really annoying.

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